I will never forget the moment when i first saw my baby. Oh! How i felt. Such a beautiful girl I have got. I am a MOM.Then the whole lot of remarks that followed day by day hazed the excitement of becoming a mother.
A (some relative): Oh! Such a beautiful baby! Don’t worry next time it will be a boy.
I thought, "Why the damn should I worry?"
B(temple priest): May God bless you with a son next time.
I thought, "Why can’t you bless my daughter, damn it? She's right in front of you"
And so on and so forth.
I quietly went on to bring up my daughter. Somehow felt futile to argue on such notes.
Then after three years I gave birth to another daughter. And it was like a shower of comments on my family members.
C(my hubby's friend who also has a daughter): Heh heh, now u have to spend for two dowries. I have to spend for only one.
I thought, "Dowry? Which generation are you in?"
D (a lady in bank, who chats with me): Oh! Both are daughters? ... (Rest very loud even though unsaid)
I thought, "You urself are a lady and you too...”
E ( a relative to my mom-in-law): Your daughter in law should go for another kid, hopefully it will be a son next time.
I didn't think anything this time.
And as time passes, I have got used to such statements. As my daughters are growing up, sometime back I got to hear something very interesting
F (my mom-in-law's friend to my mom-in-law): Who the hell tells you have 2 grand daughters. My god, they are so cute, so well mannered... They are going to surpass all your three sons.
Am I happy with this? No, I wouldn't say that. That's still a comparison.
I just hope a time will come when will stop comparing between GIRLS and BOYS. I am doing my bit by nurturing my KIDS, who will shape our future.
Are you doing your BIT?
